Tribe Thursday

Since the dawn of man (no, this is not a history lesson) tribes have existed to survive – hunting, gathering and living together. At the dawn of man, there also weren’t 7.6 billion on Earth, so tribing with your BFF was likely easier.

Fast forward. First day of kindergarten. You are either a nervous mess, because you are an introvert and until now only knew a few friends via play dates and hanging with mom – or – are literally the kid who so excited to be there, you don’t listen to teacher and you do you. In all your runny nose, missing front teeth glory, this is where you find one of your first true tribes.

Tribe v. hive, or as I like to call it interesting facts I found on the internet.

According to NatGeo, today there are over 100 uncontacted tribal peoples worldwide. This means that from the Amazon to the Andaman Sea and the remote highland rain forests of West Papua, more than 100 tribes still live — and live successfully — in isolation from the mainstream society of their country.

Beyoncé also has 109m followers on Instagram. Could an anthropological discovery 10,000 years from now consider them a modern tribe as well?

And for those of you trying to find a tribe, some sage advice from Amy Poehler delivered at Harvard College Class Day in 2011:

“Find a group of people who challenge and inspire you, and spend a lot of time with them, and it will change your life.”

No matter your tribe, love them hard — because you can’t do epic shit with basic people!

Talk to me about your tribe in the comment section.

Vol. 2. Ch. 2. Day 1 – How To Keep A Millennial

Let’s be real. I’m not your typical millennial (or newly minted xennial). Somehow, I have managed to work for the same company for over 18 years now. That’s pretty unheard of for my people.

It could’ve been my upbringing. Both my parents worked their jobs well past the 20-year mark and were constant reminders that you just don’t quit something because you had a bad day, you don’t get along with someone, or something was “too hard.” You tough it out. And yes, the “me generation” is always after the quick buck, corner office, and social stat, but really for what? Because you worked so hard you “deserve it?”

I’m about to make two very differing references – one to The Devil Wears Prada and the other to Forbes.

If you’re going to go into a new job do your research. The industry varies with culture: people, location, etc. In The Devil Wears Prada, the lesson is you learn to adapt or you get out. Nothing is going to be as hard as it was on Day 1 of a new job. Trust me I work in Corporate HR – those are two words people run from. I had no clue what it would really be like, but you just roll with the punches and then soon you’re putting your stamp on things and making them your own. Here’s a fun Buzzfeed to the “29 Of The Most Iconic Lines From “The Devil Wears Prada”

But where I do become a typical millennial is in my need for three things:

  • An entrepreneurial spirit
  • Flexibility in where I work
  • Encouraging development

It’s no secret that I love what I do, I aim to be so client focused that it sometimes feels like I’m running a small company within company. And while it’s a ripple, you have to make sure your ripples are connected so you make waves. Those waves equal results, and results (big or small) equal your success.

Somedays, I don’t like working at a desk. Neither should you. You should think about what drives your creativity. Is it an occasional day in bed to catch up or maybe working outdoors? For me, most days its drawing on large sheets of paper or starting my date off with a creative writing exercise. This is my flexibility. This is what keeps me sane.

Development. Forget sending me to do another online training. Send me to go meet with people. Let me find out how I can help others, and how others can help our business. Let me develop in ways that are so untraditional that we can grow better, together.

There’s more on these topics in this awesome Forbes article, ” How To Keep Millennials Employed With Your Company

In the meantime, my non-typical/typical millennial self is going to post a selfie.

New Year, Not So New Me… I Quit (The Gym)

Ever think to yourself: I belong to way too many things: email lists, Pintrest boards, etc.?

For me it was the gym.

I actually stopped using the facility a while ago and to be honest, it wasn’t fun anymore. To be perfectly honest with you, I started to hate it – the waiting for equipment, wiping it down cause the last person didn’t pay it forward, parking, inconsistent cleanliness of the showers, and the fact that I “belonged” to four at my peak weirded me out.

Did I see results? Yes. Was it worth the time and effort? Absolutely.

You see, for me it wasn’t community enough. I loved teaching spin at the Y, working out with my PAL, Lisa when we used to work closer together, and I absolutely love boutique fitness classes like Barry’s Boot Camp and SoulCycle. These were places where there was no judgement and I could literally lose myself.

And then there was the “nutrition plan.”

I would work out and put myself on some plan, where yes the protein shakes and egg whites toned my muscles but I was hangry most of the day. “Fuel” they call it is not a way to live. For those of you that know me taking beautiful pictures of food is my real workout.

So, I have quit the gym(s) and now, my exercise will come purely in the form of getting outside starting off with walking then back into running (I’ve done 33 half marathons what’s a few more?), beautiful hikes through nature, taking a boutique fitness class here and there, jumping on the Peleton, and getting a kettlebell workout in while in my backyard.

I know sometimes days will go by and I’ll be too busy… and I’m totally cool with that. You may love working out and that’s great. Everyone is different and we are allowed to change our minds a million times while we grow up. And, really the fear of gaining a few pounds because of something extremely delicious is so beyond me. I honestly can’t imagine life any other way without a piece of bacon or a cookie here and there.